Archive for Trust & Commitment

How Well Do You Handle Criticism? (In Three Acts)

Oh yeah?

Do you want to squirt lemon juice in the eyes of anyone who DARES to criticize you? To pound their desk with your fist and shout, Who do you think you are?! You don’t KNOW me, what I’ve seen, or where I come from! Do suggestions, tips, and advice feel like hostile criticisms to you? [...]

What was the Context? Context, Love, and Empathy

What was the context?

The past two weeks I’ve been reading and giving feedback on a manuscript for a book about context and design. Context means “the circumstances that form the setting for an event, statement, or idea, and in terms of which it can be fully understood and assessed.” The book will be aimed at people who work [...]

A Lack of Self-Control Creates a Lack of Trust


Another person’s lack of self-control can erode the trust of those around him. If you’ve lived with or cared about addicts of any kind, you may be familiar with that sensation that hits your gut — a mild queasy feeling — when their actions don’t match their words. It’s not that they can’t justify their [...]

Are You Most Comfortable One-on-One?

Are you the kind of person who has always spent time with friends, family, or co-workers one-on-one, rather than in small groups It seems to me that people tend to fall into two types, being either ‘group’ people or ‘solo’ people. I’m not naturally a group person. In the past I’ve never been one to [...]

5 Tips for Coping with Commitment Issues (Theirs)

But, whose commitment issues are you most concerned about? Are you concerned about your ability to live up to commitments? Or, as you more concerned about the lack of someone else’s ability to commit? My guess is that we’re more concerned with the commitments that we wish other people would make to us than our own commitments. That’s classic ACA behavior (wishing that someone were “more” than what they are.) If you’re the over-achieving type of ACA, then you probably are very reliable and very critical of the inability of others to be just as reliable as you are. You may even unconsciously ‘test’ people on this.