Archive for Trust & Commitment

What was the Context? Context, Love, and Empathy

What was the context?

The past two weeks I’ve been reading and giving feedback on a manuscript for a book about context and design. Context means “the circumstances that form the setting for an event, statement, or idea, and in terms of which it can be fully understood and assessed.” The book will be aimed at people who work [...]

A Lack of Self-Control Creates a Lack of Trust

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Another person’s lack of self-control can erode the trust of those around him. If you’ve lived with or cared about addicts of any kind, you may be familiar with that sensation that hits your gut — a mild queasy feeling — when their actions don’t match their words. It’s not that they can’t justify their [...]

Are You Most Comfortable One-on-One?

Are you the kind of person who has always spent time with friends, family, or co-workers one-on-one, rather than in small groups It seems to me that people tend to fall into two types, being either ‘group’ people or ‘solo’ people. I’m not naturally a group person. In the past I’ve never been one to [...]

5 Tips for Coping with Commitment Issues (Theirs)

But, whose commitment issues are you most concerned about? Are you concerned about your ability to live up to commitments? Or, as you more concerned about the lack of someone else’s ability to commit? My guess is that we’re more concerned with the commitments that we wish other people would make to us than our own commitments. That’s classic ACA behavior (wishing that someone were “more” than what they are.) If you’re the over-achieving type of ACA, then you probably are very reliable and very critical of the inability of others to be just as reliable as you are. You may even unconsciously ‘test’ people on this.

Just When You Think, “I’m Cool,” You’re Actually Still Grasping for CONTROL

What does it look like when you’re at peace, and not behaving like someone obsessed with control? You don’t plan out conversations; you go with the flow when plans change because you are your own center-home, you say what you really think no matter what impression it may give others of you, you ask others for help because you don’t need to give off the impression of complete self-sufficiency, you can enjoy a movie even if you’re not sitting in the ‘perfect’ front-and-center seat; you apologize easily, you tell the truth, and you let others express their opinions freely, and you let them have the last word.