I’m not calling you whores, per se. Tee hee. We all think ‘sex-for-money’ when we hear the word prostitution. Forget that. That’s not my focus here. I’m talking about archetypes, an ancient and universal concept of what it means to prostitute one’s self. Wha…? A Couple Definitions To Prostitute: To sell parts of one’s Self [...]
I’m re-reading a remarkable, practical self-help book, Self-Esteem, which is in its third edition and subtitled, A proven program of cognitive techniques for assessing, improving & maintaining your self-esteem. Between them, the authors, Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning have written many, many other self-help guides as well. The first time I read Self-Esteem, and then [...]
How often do you over-think things? Making an exit? Opportunities? Big decisions? Small decisions? Or just…buying a simple chocolate-chip cookie? Here’s how it goes down: A thought comes – “Mmm, oh, it would be nice to eat a cookie. A warm, chocolate-chip cookie.” Simple. Unless you put a “simple” thought like that through the mind of an [...]
Hesitant when asked to do something? Always want to know what’s going to happen–when, where, how long, and who’s going to be there? Cautious? Wary? Unable to wholly trust others? Yes, and of course. With all the chaos around us as children, caution and being slow-to-trust makes complete and utter, not-your-fault, 100% sense. In his [...]
I just can’t keep myself from writing about self-control again. Must be a lack of… Last post, I wrote about how another person’s self-control makes them seem more trustworthy to us (based on the results of a recent study). And vice-versa: they also found that when others’ self-control was erratic, people had trouble trusting them. [...]
Something I learned from my therapist not long ago is that when I have a clear sense of alternatives, of options, that not only do I immediately feel less stuck, saner, but I can also then be moved into action. That is, I perceive that not only do alternatives and options exist in life in [...]
As you grow, and gain joy in your healing and growing-up-in-adulthood process, it’s just as important to embrace dark moments in your growth as it is to bounce and leap into the joy-filled ones. The expression two steps forward and one step back is diminished by its age and use, but is a remarkably wise expression. [...]
I just came across this quote while searching for quotes on babies’ temper tantrums. I immediately thought of all of us: RESENTMENT IS LIKE TAKING POISON AND WAITING FOR THE OTHER PERSON TO DIE. –Malachy McCourt I laughed out loud upon reading that. How true it is. How absurd resentment is. Resentment has everything to do [...]
Let’s skip the ‘signs of self-sabotage’ list, because you know what the signs of self-sabotage are. Your gut tells you, every time. You know the frustrated, disappointed feeling that comes when you didn’t do something the way you could have, or didn’t do something you’d planned to do. It all comes down to the fact [...]
First you're abandoned, then you live with an urge to flee. I have spent my entire life anxiously ready for things to fall apart. My shoulders are never completely without tension, same for my eyes in their sockets. There's always the potential for a need to leave. I have spent my entire life ready to [...]
