Tool #2 – Don’t Believe What You Think This is part two on Self-Esteem and my post from last week, inspired by an important book ($12) – Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem The first tool from the book that I shared in last week’s Part 1 [...]
I’m re-reading a remarkable, practical self-help book, Self-Esteem, which is in its third edition and subtitled, A proven program of cognitive techniques for assessing, improving & maintaining your self-esteem. Between them, the authors, Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning have written many, many other self-help guides as well. The first time I read Self-Esteem, and then [...]
I’ve been witness to two lessons from nature over the past several months. Both out in my garden and inside my house: One: Given a roomy pot and some fertilizer a near-dead plant will flourish. Two: A good pruning can re-focus a plant’s energy and allow it to flower. We grow when the environment is [...]
Of course we’re angry. We have been loyal to people who ignored us. Loyal and loving and protective of those for whom we were secondary. We lived on the periphery of their focus. As babies, when our cries didn’t work, we shut up and smiled through our needs, our pain. As children, when our sad [...]
Caroline Casey is one of my true heroes. Enjoy -
Folks, this is where the rubber meets the road. Your rubber-soled shoes. Your road! In this post I’m focusing on Practice #3, the practice of taking care of yourself and making changes. Just like Practice #1 and Practice #2, this one is meant to be integrated with the others—particularly the practice of therapeutic work. In [...]
In this post I’m focusing on Practice #2, the practice of doing therapeutic work. This practice is meant to be integrated with the other steps—ahem, like, started right along with Practice #1 (not after anything is ‘perfected’ ). The Four Practices to Raise Yourself Up #1 The Practice of Learning Who You Are & What [...]
In this post I’m focusing on Practice #1, the practice of discovery, and taking a deep, deliberate look at who you are in the context of what happened in your past. The Four Practices to Raise Yourself Up! 1. The Practice of Learning Who You Are & What Happened 2. The Practice of Therapeutic Work [...]
When you’re in emotional pain, you want to know—is there a cure? Am I a puppet of my family or an independent agent with choice? Will I ever feel better—like, happy? Will I ever stop crying? Will I grow out of this and, promise me, not repeat the past? Not repeating the past is really, [...]
It’s a new year, right? New year, new you, new habits, new goodness and trying harder, right? (Just making sure.) So, let’s get down to adult child basics. Some simple stretches. OK? First, a disclaimer: I make a point not to endorse twelve-step groups as part of GWNI (just as twelve-step groups take care not [...]
