Archive for Parenthood

Our Own Kind of Mother


“All women become like their mothers.  That is their tragedy.  No man does.  That’s his.”  –Oscar Wilde   My god, if that’s true, I’m in for it!  If that’s true, we’re talking drug abuse, several marriages, and an early death.  My greatest fear was always that I’d become just what Oscar Wilde predicted.  Luckily, a [...]

Your Kid Just Barfed—But You Have Dinner Reservations

If my ultra-normal hero, Norma Normalstrom, were to read the above statement, she would say, “Duh. That’s a no-brainer!  Cancel dinner. Your child’s sick!” For people who grew up like us, it’s so not a no-brainer, it’s a dumbfounder.  It’s like, “What do I do?  I don’t know.  My brain has stopped.” You don’t know [...]

Parenting Anew

Now, I have lots and lots and lots of thoughts on parenting, and especially on parenting despite a ragged emotional inheritance, so please know that this is just the beginning of an unending river of thoughts over time.  That’s a disclaimer, a promise, and a warning! When I think about parenting, and specifically parenting as someone [...]

Book – “Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children”


It’s never too late to be a loving parent to yourself, to your children–no matter how darn old you are or might feel.  Got it?  That means:  invest in yourself now, you’re worth it. (That’s my Assertive Care parenting voice (well, it’s meant to be) which I learned from the book.) I found out about  Growing [...]

Conditional Parenting, Conditional Love

Conditional love is like the word LOVE with the word IF stuffed into it.  Lifove.  If you do this, I'll love you. Lifove feels bad.  I guess I can sort of see how it makes sense in theory, sort of, but my head and heart know it as wrong in practice.  The word conditional and [...]