How often do you over-think things? Making an exit? Opportunities? Big decisions? Small decisions? Or just…buying a simple chocolate-chip cookie? Here’s how it goes down: A thought comes – “Mmm, oh, it would be nice to eat a cookie. A warm, chocolate-chip cookie.” Simple. Unless you put a “simple” thought like that through the mind of an [...]
Something I learned from my therapist not long ago is that when I have a clear sense of alternatives, of options, that not only do I immediately feel less stuck, saner, but I can also then be moved into action. That is, I perceive that not only do alternatives and options exist in life in [...]
Here’s a question that a reader just asked me, which I’m answering in a post for everyone: “What recommendations do you have as far as a daily routine, therapy, or books to make the fear of losing control less prominent?” Her question was related to this post about the fear of losing control. While this [...]
There are control freaks, and then there are control freaks. You probably didn't know that you had control issues until you began to take stock of who you really are, your behaviors and motivations, and/or began therapy–because you'd assumed that control freaks were that highly-recognizable type person who is…well, the annoying, uptight, nosey person who always has to be right, [...]
A few months ago, I went with my fiance to a herbal healing shop called Rosemary's Garden up in Sebastopol, Ca. He'd done some reading about herbs that can be helpful for foot and joint pain (such as arnica, which lessened my pelvic bone pain post-childbirth), and Rosemary's Garden turns out to be a local mecca for [...]
What does it look like when you’re at peace, and not behaving like someone obsessed with control? You don’t plan out conversations; you go with the flow when plans change because you are your own center-home, you say what you really think no matter what impression it may give others of you, you ask others for help because you don’t need to give off the impression of complete self-sufficiency, you can enjoy a movie even if you’re not sitting in the ‘perfect’ front-and-center seat; you apologize easily, you tell the truth, and you let others express their opinions freely, and you let them have the last word.
