Archive for Intimacy

How Taking ‘No’ for an Answer Can Build Intimacy

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The Good Men Project just published my article on how to navigate personal boundaries – read it here, “How Taking No for an Answer Can Build Intimacy“ “There’s a difference between a ‘No’ that pushes away and a ‘No’ that shows you who someone is.” Excerpt:  For each type of relationship—those with friends, neighbors, family, [...]

Being in a Relationship with an Adult Child of an Alcoholic


I wrote the following article about what it’s like to be in a relationship with an adult child of an alcoholic for the Love & Life Toolbox (here’s the article). Sharing here as well! ————————————————————– Being in a relationship with an adult child of an alcoholic Have you heard the one about the confused man whose [...]

Act Three: Making Peace with Criticism

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Act Three:  MAKING PEACE WITH CRITICISM You now know about the ninja-level tool of breathing to slow down and try to be present in the face of criticism (that was Part II Knowing Good Criticism from Bad) as well as how to evaluate whether the criticism is real or an apparition from childhood (that was [...]

What was the Context? Context, Love, and Empathy

What was the context?

The past two weeks I’ve been reading and giving feedback on a manuscript for a book about context and design. Context means “the circumstances that form the setting for an event, statement, or idea, and in terms of which it can be fully understood and assessed.” The book will be aimed at people who work [...]

On Beginning a New Relationship (When Your Childhood Wasn’t ‘Normal’)


[Dedicated to N.S. Thanks for asking!] Recently a reader asked me for some thoughts on beginning relationships. I said I’d reply in a post, because there have got to be others asking this same question, right?  Some of these ideas come from a chapter in a book I’m writing (exciting! exciting!) which is based on [...]