Archive for Healthy Boundaries

How Taking ‘No’ for an Answer Can Build Intimacy

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The Good Men Project just published my article on how to navigate personal boundaries – read it here, “How Taking No for an Answer Can Build Intimacy“ “There’s a difference between a ‘No’ that pushes away and a ‘No’ that shows you who someone is.” Excerpt:  For each type of relationship—those with friends, neighbors, family, [...]

Self-Care is Not Selfishness, it’s One’s Lifeblood

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You cannot indulge in too much self-care over the holidays. You don’t have to become a flickering bulb that has lost its vitality.  Keep your fuse fully charged, even if for the first time in your life. Don’t keep pushing, trying to rally, and going, going, going until you’re running ragged and awaiting one of two [...]

New Book – “The Guide to Compassionate Assertiveness”

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Written by Sherrie M. Vavrichek (LCSW-C), this new book is “The Guide to Compassionate Assertiveness,” and I cannot recommend it highly enough. This is a book for anyone who avoids speaking up for their needs. This wonderful book goes well beyond explanations of how to articulate needs and teaches a Buddhist-inspired approach that can improve both [...]

Your Inner Prostitute: Selling Out to Survive vs. Self-Respect

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I’m not calling you whores, per se. Tee hee. We all think ‘sex-for-money’ when we hear the word prostitution. Forget that. That’s not my focus here. I’m talking about archetypes, an ancient and universal concept of what it means to prostitute one’s self. Wha…?  A Couple Definitions To Prostitute:  To sell parts of one’s Self [...]

Your Radar’s Not Broken, You Know When Someone’s Bad for You

We feel so broken sometimes.  So put upon.  So tired.  Must we always have to re-do, do-over, re-jigger, and work so, so hard to have a normal, right, life? Depends on how you look at it. The un-chosen, poorly-tuned, oblivious life isn’t very rewarding, so in that sense the oh-so-hard work is worth it.  And, [...]