Archive for Family of Origin

TheFix.com Featured my Post “They Did the Best They Could”

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I’ve received a lot of comments on my post about the phrase ‘They did the best they could,” and recovery site TheFix.com just picked it up on their site – very exciting! Here’s the piece: On the phrase: They Did The Best They Could. Have you watched my video about my let’s-make-it-a-book for The Kind [...]

How Did Your Dad’s Marijuana Use Affect Your Childhood?

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That was his question, Stefan Åsberg, correspondent for SVT. This past weekend I participated in the filming of a segment about marijuana use in the U.S. for Swedish television (the segment will air in August). How did they find me? I received an email from Alexa at SVT.se who had seen my blog and wanted [...]

In the Kitchen of Holiday Joy

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There are two truths that I have long struggled to square at this time of year. One is the child-like anticipation and joy that wells up in me during the holidays. The other is the devastation I feel about the kind of family in which I was raised. For many years, I approached the holidays [...]

Did I Make Reconciliation Possible? …”I Did the Best I Could.”

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I’ve given more thought to the reconciliation of my stepmother.  I think there is more to the story then I originally thought. I think I may have laid the groundwork that made the moment possible — without realizing it. Background: I wrote this post about my stepmother’s reconciliation with me. That one stemmed from an [...]

And I quote: “I Did My Best, and It Wasn’t Good Enough.”

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Something important happened last week. I didn’t expect, after all this time, for my stepmother and I to reconcile. I didn’t expect it because it seems that if we were going to reconcile, it would’ve happened about a decade ago—at the time she divorced my father (after a 20-year marriage). The divorce, although I was [...]