Archive for Anxiety, Panic & PTSD

Self-Care is Not Selfishness, it’s One’s Lifeblood

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You cannot indulge in too much self-care over the holidays. You don’t have to become a flickering bulb that has lost its vitality.  Keep your fuse fully charged, even if for the first time in your life. Don’t keep pushing, trying to rally, and going, going, going until you’re running ragged and awaiting one of two [...]

How Long is Healing Myself Going to Take?


If you ever find yourself wondering how long it takes to heal, you’re not alone. I have asked that question. We all have. I started this work in the early 90s with that very question. And as soon as I looked under the hood of my pain and discovered that I had deeply-rooted self-loathing and [...]

I was going to start a new habit and then completely forgot. Again.


On a recent Saturday, a coaching client described something I’ve come to think of as a particular kind of amnesia, ‘amnesia of intention’. It’s a kind of forgetfulness, but extremely complete. While she and I were talking, I had an ‘ah-ha!’ moment because it was the first time I’d heard someone describe the experience. While [...]

Act Two: Knowing Good Criticism from Bad

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Act Two KNOW GOOD CRITICISM FROM BAD Do you trust yourself to differentiate between good criticism and bad criticism, what’s okay and what’s not? Does All Criticism Seem Like An Attack? Do you react to criticism as if your village is under attack? I sure used to. When I had some of my worst experiences [...]

Stress? Anxiety? Had A Bad Day? Give Yourself a Thumbs Up!


Well, five thumbs up, actually. An article in this month’s Common Ground explains how thinking five positive thoughts can turn-around a foul mood. The focus of the article is on language — words. How words like, “No,” “poverty,” “illness,” and “death” trigger the release of dozens of stress-producing hormones and neurotransmitters inside our bodies. Yikes, [...]