Archive for Adult-Child Issues – Page 2

On Authority Figure Issues & the Problem with The First 3 Steps of The 12 Steps of ACoA

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Is the source of our authority figure issues in conflict with an ability to adapt 12 Step methods? Is the fact of a childhood during which parental/authority figures failed us in conflict with being able to put the first three steps to good use? Are those steps negotiable, nor non-negotiable? What’s at stake, in me, if [...]

Listen In! Getting Out from Under Approval-Seeking

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Sunday morning. 7 a.m. Fog. And yet:  joy comes. Susan and I have a real conversation here and engage in some productive soul-scraping for y’all.  Today we talked about approval seeking, which was a means for survival as children in dysfunctional families, but gets in our way in our grown-up lives. Is agreeing with others [...]

Listen In! Our Interactions with Authority Figures, Real & Perceived

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Ah, Sundays. The audio for yesterday’s Blog Talk Radio chat is live now (player below).  Thank you, Susan, for having me on your show and for the always revelatory exchanges! The show is 30 mins. Post comments below. On July 29th, Susan and I will be doing it again. Listen to internet radio with Susanks [...]

Listen In! In Conversation on BlogTalkRadio (Are You Worth A Comfy Couch?)

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As promised – a photo of THE COUCH. Soft as a rose petal. Last Sunday I joined Susan of Empowering Solutions again to talk about problems and solutions for children of trauma, and told the story of purchasing my couch. Somehow, in all the apartments and towns in which I’ve lived, this is the first [...]

2 Secret Self-Esteem Tools for Tackling Your Self-Hate (Part 1)

I’m re-reading a remarkable, practical self-help book, Self-Esteem, which is in its third edition and subtitled, A proven program of cognitive techniques for assessing, improving & maintaining your self-esteem. Between them, the authors, Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning have written many, many other self-help guides as well.  The first time I read Self-Esteem, and then [...]