Archive for Adult-Child Issues

A HERO…THRIVES | My Story: ALYX HOLDER

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Hero (noun): “the chief character in a story, play, or life who is greatly admired for how she overcomes obstacles.” #AHeroThrives. This story is Alyx’s story. Her essay follows our Q&A. ——————————— Who is Alexandrea Holder? Alyx is a South Florida native working toward a double Master’s degrees in Psychology and English. She finds the [...]

Self-Care is Not Selfishness, it’s One’s Lifeblood

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You cannot indulge in too much self-care over the holidays. You don’t have to become a flickering bulb that has lost its vitality.  Keep your fuse fully charged, even if for the first time in your life. Don’t keep pushing, trying to rally, and going, going, going until you’re running ragged and awaiting one of two [...]

The Difference Between Being Angry and Feeling Angry

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The Good Men Project just published my article on anger – read it here, “Speaking of Anger:  The Difference Between Being Angry and Feeling Angry“ Excerpt: Oh, how some men do anger—with flair, full throttle, and theatrically. There are men who even do it in cars. Some especially do it in cars. An automobile can punctuate anger: A sharp right turn [...]

When There’s Alcoholism in Your Family Tree (or Your Partner’s Family Tree): Part One

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We all find our way to the realization that our family history includes alcoholism, we just find our way there differently.  Some of us find our way through finding ourselves in a relationship with an addict of some sort again and again, until we examine our family history and codependent leanings — and, through that [...]

Start Practicing Self-Kindness and Personal Boundaries Come Naturally

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There are aspects of our journey, self-investigation, and its narrow paths that we can only walk alone. We want to share ourselves so completely with our friends and partners that, at times, we try to take them with us to the tough, dark places that it’s appropriate for only us to go. We make our [...]