Archive for Adult-Child Issues

When There’s Alcoholism in Your Family Tree (or Your Partner’s Family Tree): Part One

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We all find our way to the realization that our family history includes alcoholism, we just find our way there differently.  Some of us find our way through finding ourselves in a relationship with an addict of some sort again and again, until we examine our family history and codependent leanings — and, through that [...]

Start Practicing Self-Kindness and Personal Boundaries Come Naturally

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There are aspects of our journey, self-investigation, and its narrow paths that we can only walk alone. We want to share ourselves so completely with our friends and partners that, at times, we try to take them with us to the tough, dark places that it’s appropriate for only us to go. We make our [...]

Act Three: Making Peace with Criticism

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Act Three:  MAKING PEACE WITH CRITICISM You now know about the ninja-level tool of breathing to slow down and try to be present in the face of criticism (that was Part II Knowing Good Criticism from Bad) as well as how to evaluate whether the criticism is real or an apparition from childhood (that was [...]

Act Two: Knowing Good Criticism from Bad

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Act Two KNOW GOOD CRITICISM FROM BAD Do you trust yourself to differentiate between good criticism and bad criticism, what’s okay and what’s not? Does All Criticism Seem Like An Attack? Do you react to criticism as if your village is under attack? I sure used to. When I had some of my worst experiences [...]

My talk “Hacking the Phrase ‘They Did the Best They Could’” (further reading)

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So you want to learn more about the Hero’s Journey and Transactional Analysis and a couple other ideas I mentioned? Don’t worry, I’m not telling you what to do (adult children hate being directed), but just saying it’s here, if you should decide to dive deeper (wink, wink). Regarding the phrase “They Did the Best [...]