Ever felt shame and embarassment when you ask for something? Do you, deep down, wonder if you truly have a right to get your needs met? What’s going on in those brains of ours? In this video, Jef Gazley discusses what’s normal when it comes to making requests of others in order to get our [...]
I asked Jef Gazley, LMFT, how do brain therapies work, such as hypnotherapy and energy therapy — how to they get deep into the brain in a way that talk-therapy can’t? He explained that While cognitive behavioral therapy is absolutely key to healing, methods such as energy therapy or hypnotherapy can reach our brains in [...]
If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by a conversation that you didn’t want to have and didn’t know how to end, not without suffering feelings of guilt and possibly abandonment, then watch this 10-minute video. The video contains a just-bumped-into-you conversation as well as my discussion with Tim G about the minefield that is conversations. ‘Guess [...]
How often do you over-think things? Making an exit? Opportunities? Big decisions? Small decisions? Or just…buying a simple chocolate-chip cookie? Here’s how it goes down: A thought comes – “Mmm, oh, it would be nice to eat a cookie. A warm, chocolate-chip cookie.” Simple. Unless you put a “simple” thought like that through the mind of an [...]
Hesitant when asked to do something? Always want to know what’s going to happen–when, where, how long, and who’s going to be there? Cautious? Wary? Unable to wholly trust others? Yes, and of course. With all the chaos around us as children, caution and being slow-to-trust makes complete and utter, not-your-fault, 100% sense. In his [...]
I just can’t keep myself from writing about self-control again. Must be a lack of… Last post, I wrote about how another person’s self-control makes them seem more trustworthy to us (based on the results of a recent study). And vice-versa: they also found that when others’ self-control was erratic, people had trouble trusting them. [...]
Another person’s lack of self-control can erode the trust of those around him. If you’ve lived with or cared about addicts of any kind, you may be familiar with that sensation that hits your gut — a mild queasy feeling — when their actions don’t match their words. It’s not that they can’t justify their [...]
I’ve been borrowing books from my local library lately. (I make good use of their online database, reserving books from across their member branches, which the librarians kindly set aside for quick pick-up - an email comes when the book is ready. The only thing that could make it even easier would be a drive-thru window! But then I wouldn’t [...]
You know how there’s always that obligatory, silly-but-satisfying make-over scene in films, in which the lead character looses weight, gets in shape, new hair, make-up, and a totally new wardrobe? This is what’s just happened here, to GWNI. Thank you – your donations helped make this happen! I hope you like what you see here. [...]
If you’ve been reading GWNI during the past few years, you might be wondering, “Where is everything?!” My five years of content is all here, it’s just now very. neatly. organized. What’s inside? Well, I’ve organized the content in a way that reflects the surviving-healing-thriving journey: The THRIVING section is about living from a place [...]
