Listen In! “Stop Creating Chaos” on Blog Talk Radio

If you were raised within a chaotic home environment, you may feel that chaos is such a part of your life that it’s actually part of your identity.

CHAOS can stem from procrastination…

It can stem from fragile self-esteem….

CHAOS can stem from engaging in gossip…

It can stem from calling a friend to talk about other people’s problems and shortcomings (“Oh My God! Did you hear what so-and-so did last night?!”)

Sunday, November 2nd 2013 - This morning on our Blog Talk Radio show, Susan and I talked about the role of chaos in our lives, examples of it, and how we can avoid it and eventually completely disengage from it.

The is Show #4 of our new series on empowering solutions for dealing with Communication Quicksand.

 

*Visit Susan page: Empowering Solutions on Facebook. Some great conversations happen on her site.
*And I’m always here at Guess What Normal Is

 

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Drop the chaos, embrace ease – Communications Quicksand #4: with @GWNIbyAmyEden and @Susan_Ks at #blogtalkradio http://tinyurl.com/mmg5gpq

Comments

  1. maks says:

    I was not raised by alcoholics, but I was raised with plenty of violence and abuse happening to me and around me and I can totally relate to your fear of “being bored”. And when I first recognised I had that fear it came as a shock because I felt stuck: I want to be happy but happyness is boring, isn’t it? And in my case, I actually know how I got that belief because my parents would make fun and say very derogative things every time they saw a happy scene, no matter in life or tv. So we grew up thinking that: 1) real life is the way we live now and any other, happer life is a lie; 2) all these happy slobs are weaklings, greenhouse plants, and we – we are tough and we are cool and we will beat them (why, to what, that wasn’t even asked).
    So I always had this shame inside of me that being happy was such a struggle for me, but then last week actually I was listening to Robert Holden, who researches happyness and who created a happyness project in England, and he was saying how most people are actually quite uncomfortable with joy because even “normal” families very rare believe in possibility of happyness. So he rated feeling happy on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being miserable and 10 being absolute joy. So he would ask a person to rate how happy they felt on an average basis. And one man said 6. So Robert used some phycological exerceses and took that guy’s level of joy to 9. And what was his reaction? The guy panicked! He said “Take me down back to 7 because I am getting a spiritual vertigo”.
    And I loved that image! Basically being happy is like climbing a mountain. It is a progress, and it’s ok to feel dizzy and overwhelmed sometimes. So that helps me personally to take off most of the shame about not being happy enough and just enjoy the moment. And same with the fear of boredom.

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