Thank you so much for the warm, loving welcome Bernal Heights! Here are some notes from my talk yesterday on Loneliness and Raw Feeling:
Definitions of Loneliness
Three ways of thinking about Loneliness:
Loneliness is being with and within raw feeling.
Wikipedia: ”Complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to lack of companionship or isolation.”
4th Chakra, the Heart Chakra mantras:
“I love myself for who I am and the potential within me.” And, “I release the past into the hands of love.”
The book I quoted from was, The Places that Scare You: A Guide to Fearless in Difficult Times.
The Hero’s Journey
Ordinary World (your present day, current life)
Call to Adventure (the party invitation…or gut sense to end a relationship)
Refusal of the Call (denial, magical thinking, wanting what society wants of you…hesitation, delay)
Meeting with the Mentor (Yoda, therapist, your dreams, a book, outside guidance)
Crossing the First Threshold (the first roadblock – favorite jeans stained, can’t afford to live alone)
Tests, Allies, Enemies (‘you’re wearing that!?” or ‘why can’t couples stay together?’)
Approach to the Inmost Cave (personal click, insight, point of no return, deeply wanting a different life)
The Ordeal (moving van, logistics of the moment, walking to the party)
Reward (sharing a laugh with a stranger at the party….the long exhale and joy of choosing YOU)
The Road Back (you are new and you are returning to work, home, neighborhood)
The Resurrection (this is the New You, color, strength, shining)
Return with the Elixir (sponsorship, sharing your lessons, embodying the newness – returning with the sword from slaying the dragon)
If you’re a writer, here’s the book I referred to, The Writer’s Journey: Mythic Structure for Writers, on Amazon.com.
And this is Joseph Campbell’s work on The Hero’s Journey, The Hero with a Thousand Faces, about human spiritual journeys.
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Feel free to post any questions or comments here.
Be kind to yourself.