Listen in! Today’s BlogTalkRadio Show: CHANGE BACK!!!

Sunday, August 25th 2013 – This morning on our Blog Talk Radio show, Susan and I talked about how people don’t handle it well when we change. They send us various messages that say, in essence, CHANGE BACK!!!!  The show is the introduction to our new series on empowering solutions for dealing with Communication Quicksand.

Blog Talk Radio Show – CHANGE BACK!!!! -

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  1. Nathan says:

    Last night at a party two friends said that they look forward to when I’m done with my dissertation so that I get drunk more and am the wild life of the party again. But they don’t realize that I’m happier being emotionally sober, not binging on drink or approval, and being less “addicted to excitement”. I can still add life to the party without needing to push it over the top.

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  3. maks says:

    I’d like to add though that change does not eman you simply go and dump it on people and if anyone is hurt or makes a comment “What happened to you? You’re not acting like yourself” you should just say to yourself “Hey they don’t like that it’s THEIR problem! I willl do how I please”. That is selfishness.
    If your loved one would stop dong soemthing or started doing something out of the blue, would you nt be surprised? What if your friend suddenly tells you he/she can’t go with you on walks on Sunday becasue they decided to go to the gym? Would you not be hurt? Yes, you will and it is normal.
    So changing means also communicating that to those you love and integrating that into your lives. Don’t villify others just ebcause they are hurt or surprised by you behaving differently, they don’t know what is going on in your mind unless you tell them. So be kind about your change, talk to others. With that friend, discuss that change, “You know I really want to go to the gym on Sundays, other time just doesn’t work out for me, but I love our special time together. Would you be interested in maybe joining me at the gym? Or could we take our walk two hours later?”
    In other words, try and treat others as you want to be treated.

    • Amy Eden says:

      Valid point! The kind of change I had in mind during that discussion with Susan was along the lines of if one of two drinking buddies decided to stop drinking and start going to the gym instead. That is, the kind of change that signals an internal shift of some magnitude. In that case, I’d imagine the person who decides to stop drinking might say something along the lines of, “Hey want to meet up for a movie or walk next week” to their friend in advance of their usual drinking date. That gives the “changing” person a chance to do what you suggest, which is to be responsible and accountable and respectful, but also honor the change they are going through in their journey. Or, of course, the person could still go to the bar but not drink, though that may not be desirable every time.
      In our conversation, Susan and I were talking about a particular population and focused on when a dysfunctional person gets healthy and makes the necessary changes that are part of creating a new, functional life. There are people whose parents and family have caused them such pain that getting distance (for a time or forever) is essential to their well-being and finding equilibrium. Thanks for the perspective! :-)

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