Amy Eden’s ‘Life As An ACOA’ – My Interview on AllTreatment.com

AllTreatment.com just featured an interview with me on their site today! 

Check out the interview here.

Here's a quick excerpt and a link to AllTreatment.com:

AllTreatment: How are you coping with recovery today?

Amy: I'm still discovering the impact of growing up with alcoholic parents! When I think back on my twenties, I see that I was isolated-without even knowing it. I might have gone out, done things, met people, dated, etc., but my spirit was caged. So when I look back on that period I think, "God, I wish I hadn't been so hesitant." That's a word that comes up a lot when I think about the past and impact of my childhood-hesitation has played a big role. Something happens when we hesitate; we lose momentum and we open the door wide for fear, excuses, and sluggishness. I can recognize a trustworthy person, but it's hard to convince the little girl in me that it's safe to let down my guard; so I do trust people, but am extremely guarded about it. It's like-I'll sit in a restaurant and enjoy the people and the meal, but I'm going to sit at the back of the restaurant facing out (mafia position)! A lot of people think this kind of childhood creates control freaks, and I joke that I am one, but I have opinions about how accurate that assessment is, which I've written about on my blog. I think it's less that we're control freaks and more that we're afraid of things spinning out of control. I don't trust reality, so I double-check that things are what they seem to be-not in an OCD way, but in an investigative reporter-type way. I grew up with people who rarely delivered on promises, so I'm very comforted when I can be around people who do what they say they'll do or at least can communicate about why they're not.

Comments

  1. susan smith says:

    Great interview Amy! I really appreciate the way you can identify the issues we live with and shed some light on them…i feel much more “normal” when I can see that the way I turned out is not because something is “wrong” with me but because I grew up in a bit of a war zone as one person put it. thanks for all you do to point the way to wellness!

  2. “I think it’s less that we’re control freaks and more that we’re afraid of things spinning out of control. I don’t trust reality”
    So true, so true. Enjoyed the interview.
    ~Judy

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