Thank you for reading my blog! I am fulfilled by knowing that my posts have helped people sort out how to get happy. But, I wonder, can I make you even happier with Guess What Normal Is?
I'd love it if you'd post your feedback on the following questions as a comment to share and discuss with other readers, or send to me in a private email at amyeden@guesswhatnormalis.com
Here we go:
1. What is the single most valuable aspect to you personally about Guess What Normal Is?
2. What post is your favorite, or helped you the most?
3. Have you ever printed a post and actually referred to it more than once later? If so, which one?
4. Are my posts too long?
5. Is there a topic I have not yet covered, that you want covered? Or that you want covered more deeply?
Any additional comments, criticisms, or suggests are welcome!
Thank you!
amy-eden
1. suddenly having a reminder of how i can take care of myself and be a better person pop up in my rss feed.
2. lots of them have helped me at different times.
3. never printed one, but i sometimes go hunting back to find one i’ve read. see 2.
4. nope! you write engagingly and succinctly.
5. as far as i have seen you haven’t talked about living/deal with high-functioning alcoholics, which is something i’d like to read about.
this blog is so wonderful, thanks for your time and energy!
1. Knowing that I am not alone in my feelings and actions, I’m not the only person who has to guess what normal is. The internet is full of people who put on a show of extreme competence and happiness and it can be exhausting, so it’s great to read articles on actual issues I struggle with.
2. Probably my favorite was “An Urge to Flee,” mainly b/c I have always had this urge and, yet, never realized that it can be traced back to my issues. I’ve read many, many of these articles over and over.
3. No, I have never printed a post. But I do refer to ones over and over.
4. No, I don’t think they are too long. I’d like to see them more often though
5. Oh where to start. Fear of people that you shouldn’t be afraid of. Fear of emotions. A more in depth look at lying. How to figure out what you are feeling. How to like yourself. Etc, Etc.
I appreciate your work and this blog so much, Amy!
1) Knowing that I am not alone, that there are others that struggle with the same issues I do.
2) I’ve gotten so much from every one of them that I’ve read. It’s been a goal to read from the beginning.
3) I’ve printed the Narcissism one because it was so much like an important family member and I needed it close to study for a while. I’ve taken bits and quotes from others to hang on to for support.
4) I don’t think they are too long. I’d like to see them more frequently and if shorter would make that possible….
5) As I haven’t read every article, I couldn’t say. I’d like to see more of how to become more of an Adult than an Adult Child and how to build healthy boundaries and healthy relationships with the alcoholic/dysfunctional family.
Thank you for all of your hard work on the site. It is appreciated.
1)Reading GWNI was literally like a light when on for me, i had all these issues, behaviors, feelings that i could never put into words and wasn’t sure that they were as a result of their alcoholism.
2)The urge to flee and the post about boundaries really felt important to me personally.
3)I’ve never printed, but i do re-read.
4)Never to long, always interesting
5)Fear of having my control taken away, and PTSD would be two things that i struggle with. I would be interested in hearing you thoughts about these issues.
Hi, Amy.
Your blog has been tremendously helpful to me as I struggle to understand my husband who grew up in a household affected by addiction. Your posts helped me gain an understanding of his struggles and learn not to take certain things personally. I showed your site to him, and it’s my hope that he’ll work through the issues that hold him (and us) back.
I read many of your posts, and found every single one educational. It is so helpful to hear on the subject from someone who has had personal experience with these issues.
I re-read the posts on loving an adult child, intimacy, fear of abandonment and the general dynamics of an affected family.
Thank you so much!!!
Z
Amy,
First of all I had to chuckle at the post title> I think you share my ironic (if not a little dark) sense of humor and at some of the things we have experienced. “How can we keep others happy” is a common obession for ACOAS’s.
But seriously as a relatively new blogger I know what you mean; I enjoy feedback and I want to know what my readers want to know. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I find your blog to be one of the most professional and informative that I have encountered. And you manage to maintain your professionalism without losing the personal touch and sense of humor that makes the blog so welcoming and readable.In fact it is the authenticity that shines through that is one of my favorite aspects of the blog. I personally enjoy the articles that help explain why we do the things we find ourselves saying, “what was I thinking”, and it helps to know it’s not just me (dang narcissism!)
Another, and maybe the most important element is putting all that stuff out there in the light that we all do but either think we are the only ones crazy enough to think/feel/act that way OR conversely the self destructive patterns we perpetuate without even knowing they are unhealthy. I think it would be interesting to have some open dialog between a clean alcoholic and their adult child; a feature interview or something.
Otherwise just keep up the good work, I refer many friends, family and readers to your blog and always hear positive feedback!
Peace,
Jenny