Archive for January 2010

Overcoming a Dysfunctional Childhood, the View from South Africa

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 It's not just me, not just us–adult children of alcoholics–who need to grow up in adulthood, who struggle with self-worth, and seek approval. It's not just us, the 1 in 3 who grew up with alcoholic parents (in the States, that is).  It's so, so many other individuals out there with these issues in common–there [...]

If You Love Someone with Alcoholic Parents


  This post is for people who love an adult child. I receive a lot of emails from people who are in a relationship with an adult child of alcoholics. They are trying to understand the person they love, or are trying to love, but they don’t know how to decipher the code of adult [...]

Painfully Imperfect, Depending on Your Vantage Point

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Never give up on yourself. Well, for an hour, or a day here and there, that’s fine, but you know what I mean–don’t ever commit to giving up on yourself. No matter how imperfect we feel, no matter how painfully, obviously in-progress we are, our fight for our true selves must go on. We must [...]